Dr. Franco published an article on PsychCentral.com discussing how past trauma can affect relationships. If a primary caregiver was neglectful or abusive, a child may have difficulty trusting their partners in their adult relationships. This can lead to insecure-anxious or insecure-avoidant attachment styles. Dr. Franco writes,
Our early experiences with those closest to us shape how we understand the nature of relationships. During these early years, we develop our attachment style. Attachment style influences who we fall in love with, how we behave in romantic relationships, and even how the relationship ends.
As we grow, the level of security that feel in our most important relationships, the tactics that we develop to get our needs met, and the coping strategies that we apply to manage our strongest feelings all strongly affect the attachment style that we develop.
With neglectful or abusive caregivers, children will see their caregiver as a source of both comfort and fear. As adults, they will seek out what is familiar – and relationships can be unhealthy or even abusive.
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